Parents love their infants and want to ensure they get plenty of love, comfort, and care. They are there for their babies 24 hours a day, seven days a week. But as babies start to grow, their needs change. And both parents might go back to work and must help their children learn how to become independent. This is perfectly natural over time.

Parents, just like their children, need time for themselves, and it serves as a benefit if your child learns this. Unfortunately, one thing parents never expect to see from their young children is anxiety separation. Some kids will fear separation from their parents, which can be challenging. Here are some suggestions to help your child deal with separation as quickly as possible.

When Will Children Start To Suffer From Anxiety Separation?

There is no set time when kids start suffering from anxiety separation, and it cannot be predicted. In many cases, the signs will begin to emerge around seven months old, when they realize their parents will be coming and going at different times. Some reactions are more acute around 16 to 18 months of age.

Do All Babies Suffer From Anxiety Separation?

In some ways, yes, because very young children will feel upset when left alone without their parents. This is also a normal process for emotional development.

Can You Be Prepared?

There is no set time or age for anxiety separation, and it is not something one can predict. Even if your baby shows signs of confidence and independence, they can still experience feelings of anxiety when you leave home. One day, they might happily wave goodbye to you in the window, then the next day, they will be super attached to your side. 

Some signs might include:

• They will cry when you leave the room.

• They become distressed when they are in a separate room.

• They will cling to you when you try to leave.

The upside is that this is perfectly normal, and there are steps you can take to make the process much easier. A child goes through many stages during development. Take heart because the more trying times don’t last forever.

Dealing With Anxiety Separation

Babies around six months of age will experience separation in different ways. If you have someone who will take care of your baby when you are gone, take the time to say goodbye and let them watch you walk away. You should never try to sneak out. Each time you leave and return, you let them know you can be trusted.

Even when your baby gets a little bit older, their confidence and social skills will develop even if they become somewhat upset when you leave. Your child will start to understand that you will be coming back. Please note that you should always be consistent every time you say goodbye and explain where you are going, even if it’s only into the next room.

If you can, try and keep your separation down to a minimum. You should take steps to spend as much time as possible with your baby, even if you must go to work. On the other hand, you should not cancel your plans because your child might be upset.

Give your baby time to adjust to the people who will be taking care of them when you are gone. If the separation upsets you, do not let your baby see it. Keep a smile on your face and keep your voice light and airy so you won’t transfer your anxiety onto them.

When you leave, it’s okay to wave goodbye, but don’t go back to hug them if they are upset. It will only prolong the whole process.

Anxiety Separation At Night

Nighttime can leave babies and young children anxious when alone in bed. This can lead to disruption in their sleep, so you must spend as much time as possible directly before bedtime so they will feel calm and relaxed. Even if your baby starts to cry when you leave the room, don’t go back to comfort them. Perform your sleep training practices with consistency and patience.

Anxiety separation is a stage that all babies and even very young children will go through at some point and to a given level, but this is a stage that will pass in time. If you need help, reach out to family and friends for support.

As your children grow and start playing with their friends, you might have moments of remorse because they no longer need to cling to you. That’s part of the growing process.

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Separation anxiety and sleep problems often go together. Reach out to Petite Dreamers for guidance in creating a strategy to help your baby sleep!